During formation sessions, I often notice that this is a recurring question among pastoral agents. It is also common for them to feel a great deal of uncertainty when addressing topics such as sexual relations, openness to life, the evil of contraception, natural methods of birth regulation, assisted reproduction, and others.
First and foremost, we must be certain that these topics truly need to be addressed. In the document Catechumenal Pathways for Married Life (CPML), published by the Dicastery for the Laity, Family and Life, there is a clear indication that certain topics must not be omitted from the Proximate Preparation. Among them are sexuality, a correct understanding of responsible fatherhood and motherhood, birth regulation, and the education of children. The document states:
“There are many other aspects related to the human reality of the person and the couple which need to be properly explored: the human dynamics of conjugal sexuality, the proper understanding of responsible paternity and maternity, and the raising of children. Catechesis and Christian teachings will help consolidate knowledge of the truth related to marriage and the formation of personal conscience. At this stage, the experience of spouses with several years of marriage behind them can offer a precious contribution.” (CPML, 53)
Not only this document, but also previous ones, have emphasized this need. And if these topics are indispensable, they cannot be limited to specialists. Otherwise, they would remain unaddressed in most parishes, since specialists are rarely available. Furthermore, it is not a matter of giving lectures on the topics, but of transmitting the essential teachings of Catholic doctrine and natural law.
In the case of natural methods, for example, it is important to address the reasons why the Church teaches that the methods which do not respect the natural rhythms — that is, the nature of the human person (hence the term “natural methods”) — are immoral. Those involved in the preparation — the marriage catechists — do not need to know how each method works, nor must they have personally used one. That would be ideal, but it is not a requirement.
Marriage catechumenate sessions are not the appropriate setting to teach a specific method. The approach should be of a spiritual nature, and if any couple expresses interest, they can be referred to someone who can provide proper instruction. It is important to establish contact with natural method instructors in the diocese in order to build this kind of “bridge.” This is where specialists play a key role — as reference points within the dioceses to clarify doubts and provide further guidance when needed.
Obviously, it is important for dioceses to promote formation opportunities on these topics for marriage catechists. However, to assist with these and other matters, the book “Matrimony: Preparation Sessions” was designed as a “guided study” — a form of reading in which the catechists are only required to coordinate the meetings, without the need to prepare content presentations. The doctrine is presented in a simple and clear manner within the book. One simply follows the reading and facilitates the moments of shared experience. This greatly simplifies the process and allows virtually any couple joined in Marriage — as long as they believe in Catholic doctrine — to become marriage catechists. In this way, more couples can participate actively in the marriage catechumenate.